For me, the ultimate paradox is Conditional Love which includes emotional and romantic love and the power of Unconditional Love.
Every Being is unconditional and worthy and deserving of the purest experience of true love. If you think you need a reason to believe you’re worthy of loving your Self, then you’re judging yourself and not experiencing pure unconditional love. What you’re experiencing is your ego’s fear that it’s unloveable or not enough. And the personality you’ve created is feeling threatened that it will be exposed. This is conditional love.
If I see myself as anything other than pure true unconditional love, then i’m not seeing my authentic Self at all.
Loving your Self unconditionally is the springboard for every other unconditional belief or feeling. Unconditional joy, gratitude, appreciation, abundance, magnificence and even your own unconditional nobility follows unconditional love. When we practice choosing love first, everything else becomes evident.
If you think you have no choice, then your ego is believing all the critical thinking you fear about yourself and love is conditional.
If you don’t believe that you’re worthy and deserving of loving your Self for no apparent reason, your mind takes the opportunity to draw conclusions about yourself — and others that will satisfy your ego’s fears. It makes up all kinds of reasons and rationale about why you’re unworthy and undeserving of true love, as well as all kinds of explanations and excuses why you shouldn’t love yourself. Then you have reasons and excuses not to love others.
Your mind would love to fool you into believing your thoughts ARE your authentic Self, with reasons and excuses to support its fearful beliefs. But that will rob you of your freedom and joy.
Loving my Self unconditionally is a practiced choice my conscious mind makes in concert with my authentic Self. When they are in harmony, I am present in the moment, here and now.
When I deny the truth about who I am, I deny my innate spirit.
For so many years my mind made up all kinds of reasons and rationale about why I was unworthy and undeserving of true love, as well as all kinds of explanations and excuses why I shouldn’t love myself. Then I had so many reasons and excuses not to love others
Either you believe you have a conscious choice or you don’t. Either you believe you’re worthy and deserving, or you don’t. If you do believe in your own value, then there’s no reason not to choose to love your Self unconditionally. If you don’t believe in your own value, then you just plain unconsciously judge, and don’t love your true Self anyway.
For such a long time I didn’t realize that I even had a choice because other people made choices for me. When I was growing up I believed my own interpretation of all their critical thinking because they had so much influence over my belief system. They meant no harm and if they were more aware and had a truer experience of their own pure love & magnificence and their own authentic selves, they would have generously imparted that information to me.
If I need a reason to love my Self, then i’m thinking and believing critical thoughts about myself. That’s how my judgmental ego evaluates what is good or bad, right or wrong, negative or positive, and gives credit or criticism to which belief my ego is attached. Then love becomes conditional.
When I finally got tired of fighting the battle with my ego’s conditional mindset, I was ready to transform my point of view and commit to believing in my own Self Worth. That’s what set me free to BE the loving authentic Self I AM with nothing else attached.
I accepted and forgave myself and all the people who had influence over my belief system throughout my life. I surrendered to the process of accepting and “letting go” of all my old beliefs.
Sometimes your mind will try to fool you into believing the process of “letting go” defines you because it doesn’t want to give up its old conditional attachments. Your ego doesn’t define you. You define it. When you stop judging and accept your own value and the value of those who influenced your beliefs, forgiveness is essential.
You are your own hero when you trust, accept and allow yourself to believe that you are. When you accept the people who influenced you as your heroes as well, then you’ll believe they also are worthy, and deserve to be loved and forgiven without any conditional reason attached.
Giving up the critical way you think about yourself means giving up your attachments to your old beliefs and accepting life exactly as it is.
Change your mind and the present way your mind thinks, and you create a whole new perspective that, when practiced daily, will transform the way you live your life. Remember you are responsible for all the choices and decisions you made in the past. It’s also your responsibility to transform those choices & decisions in the now.
When you naturally accept your Self as unconditional, you are living a life that is naturally free. All the choices you make naturally support you in loving your pure Self without effort or struggle, and all without critical thinking.
When you love your Self without any attachments, you never do harm to yourself or anyone else.
When you speak the language of pure love, shout it out for all to hear you. You deserve to let everyone know of your true value and Self Worth. Listen for the soul stirring voices of others. Love attracts love.
When I was willing to experience my “Unconditional Me,” and choose love first, I discovered God within my Self. God, for me is authentic unconditional love — not just a concept. I am not worthy and deserving of unconditional love because I believe in God. I believe in God because I am worthy and deserving of unconditional love.
God and I are truly one entity, a powerful cohesive team responsible for my life and all the decisions I consciously make.
When I choose love first, all else follows: joy, peace, harmony, gratitude, freedom, and an abundant life — lived magically every day. This, for me is the power of unconditional love and how I live a magical life.
